My boyfriend and I are expecting a baby boy in November, I am 5 months pregnant and am only with him because of the baby. I cant stand being around him, he has anger issues, He is controlling, he is really negative about everything, and he wont get a real job. He tries to control everything about the baby, saying the baby will sleep at his his house and not mine and what I can and cant buy for the baby. He tries to control who my doctor is, what hospital im going to have the baby off and so much more, its to the point where I cant stand it anymore. He is a convicted felon for possession of marijuana with intent to sell. He was sentenced to a year of anger management because he beat up his x-girlfriend and she pressed domestic violence charges on him. My question is if I leave him is there any chance he would get custody of the baby? He thinks he will, but I would be afraid to leave him alone with the baby. Do you think that I would be able to get sole custody once the baby is born? Im just looking at what my options might be, thank you for your help.Expecting mama needing some legal advice.?
did you not know all this bad stuff about him before you jumped in to bed with him without using some type of birth control???Expecting mama needing some legal advice.?
You should leave him since he is controlling, demanding and has a history of violence. He has no right to control your choice of doctor, hospital, etc. He will have parental rights once the baby is born. You should consult a lawyer now where you live so that he/she is ready to file a Petition against dad seeking a declaration of paternity, giving custody to you and requiring him to pay child support.
Yes, leave him. No judge would give him custody of a baby with his record, unless you have one yourself! He will probably get visitation rights, and you can ask the judge for supervised visitation if you are uncomfortable leaving the baby alone with him. Its a sucky situation, but until he proves he can be in control of his anger, he should be supervised.
He will not be getting custody, trust me. You need to file as soon as that baby is born and make sure he gets supervised visitation.
I hate to break it to him but since you two aren't married, you really has no say in anything that has to do with you and having the baby. If you were smart you'd give him your last name.
In 49 states the baby is born in your custody (AZ is the exception) because you aren't married. He has to prove paternity to get visitation. The felony and dv won't help. He might get supervised visitation.
Call 800.799.SAFE for a local referral to a DM center. They can guide you through the law.
Get away froim this man before he hurts you.
I don't think it's likely, especially since he doesn't have a job, is a convicted felon and has had anger management for a year in the past.
There is no chance they will give him sole custody. He will be lucky to get supervised visits with his criminal history. For him to think otherwise is dillusional.
Why would you have a child with this man?????
So I guess I am going to be a ***** here - if you knew that he was a convicted felon then why in the hell would you lay down with him and make a baby that had no choice but to be born to a father who is a drug addict and felon and a mother who doesn't have a head on her shoulders? You can't even take care of yourself let a lone a new baby. Do yourself a favor and put the baby up for adoption to a family that has the time, money and place to support a child without the risk of endangerment.
He is a control freak and a convicted violent offender, plus he he is also down as a drug dealer, need I say more?
Don't let this man bully you just because you are in a vulnerable state, because he is only doing this because you are pregnant, and an easy target at the moment. Get a lawyer and watch them rip him to shreds. What he is doing right now is considered emotional, and mental abuse!
Apply to the courts right now for full custody if not for the very reasons you have stated here!
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