Im not asking for legal advice, i just need some help?

im thirteen years old. i live with my dad because when i was younger my mom was deemed unfit to be a parent. she lost custody. now, i hate my dad and want to live with her. he still thinks shes unfit but i know she isnt. ill be fourteen in 2 weeks. my dad said the only way he'll let me move in with her is if he doesn't have to pay child support. (and he wonders why i hate him..) anyways..it was always my understanding that if the parent doesn't pay child support then that parent doesn't have any legal rights to contact that child. help? oh, and i live in Pittsburgh pa. and they were never married.Im not asking for legal advice, i just need some help?
hmm im not sure but dnt let ur gaurd down. sumtimes if u get one of ur parents mad about child support it could lead to more problems. there once was a man who refused to pay child support and the son kept bugging him so he murdered themIm not asking for legal advice, i just need some help?
Your dad probably has some difficulties as a parent if his child hates him so he could be doing a better job, but your assumption that your mom is fit is a stretch and you would have no way of knowing that as a thirteen year old. At the age of fourteen, you still need plenty of parenting and I hope he can provide it even if you don't realize it!
you already understand the legalities of what your guardian says goes, so you choices are uh, none. but it is understandable your thought process. why not do like my wife did, and move out with your mom when you turn 18. my wife went to college, and lived with her dad (opposite situation you were in) and really bonded with him. i think whatever you do, you should create a relationship with your mom, and not just because you hate your dad, but for your future relationship with your mom.
your dad sounds like a great guy for caring for you and if mom is ill you can;t be with her i think you should stay with dad and when you turn 16 then try and make a decision.


if you should go live with mom you could be taken from her and put in foster care and you wouldn.t like that.


good luck
Do u hate your dad cause he sets rules and such...get over it. Its hared enough to raise a kid with both parents, and he is doing it alone, give the guy a break. I bet u think mom will let u do stuff dad says no on, and u want that..wrong move kiddo, that would prove mom is unfit.Tough it out for 4 more years.
To be 101% honest with you i would stick with your dad, he is great for raising you if ur mom was good enough in first place she wouldnt have lost you


Try not to hate your dad and when you turn 18 u can be on your own


God bless ur dad
As far as child support is concern it has nothing to do with custody. Whether visitation exists or not child support will and should be paid by non-custodial parent. You should check on the laws in your state as to what age a child can legally choose who they want to live with. Do you have contact with your mother? If so she can ask for a modification of custody by filing the right paper work. Today the occurrence of custody situations of non married persons is very common and the laws have adjusted to that. You can also request for mediation and counseling so your voice can be heard. I will list sites below from PA that can provide you with info. It is unfortunate that children are put in situations they have no control over. You really need to talk to someone such as church pastor, educator or counselor. My heart goes out to you but remember you are not alone.