HELP! I NEED LEGAL ADVICE FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. please!?

my boyfriend was looking through my phone and he found a message from a boy on myspace he got mad, we started pushing each other and he slapped me, it wasn't hard it was a tap to get my attention. i called my mom and she came over and called the cops, the cops were friends of ours and they came and my mom was talking to them and she told them that he had pushed me down the stairs which was NOT TRUE. i had fallen by accident! he was taken into custody and was in jail for 5 days, his family and i bailed him out! he has a lawyer now and DO NOT want to press charges but theyre charging him as a felon. he is a really good father and spouse. i need help as to what i should in court. i cannot afford a lawyer right now. i dont want him to go to jail he is the main provider in my family because i stay home with our child. if he loses his job i lose health insurance for our baby girl, shes 8 months. somebody please help me as to what i can do!HELP! I NEED LEGAL ADVICE FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. please!?
Ok, here's what I would do. There will be a court date. . You will be called to stand and answer to the judges questions. ( But the prosecutors will try and push you to press charges in a private meeting before your called.) Just tell them no. Answer the judge truthfully and tell him you don't wish to press charges. No need for a lawyer at this point.. Did anyone take pictures of any injuries?


The prosecution may want to take over you and go for a felony. But it hasn't happened yet. So wait it out until after the initial court date and see IF he truly gets formally charged with a felony before getting a lawyer.


If this is a first time offense, and there were no real visible signs of violence on your body that can be used as evidence . Its going to be real tough for the prosecutors to get any conviction let alone a felony conviction without pictures or witness.





Violence is never a good thing, but it happens. As long as he doesn't have a history of abuse, he should be ok and the case should be dismissed with time served, saving you $$$$ in unecessary attorney fees.





Peace, and good luck.HELP! I NEED LEGAL ADVICE FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. please!?
Chrystal, are you telling the truth or are you just trying to save your marriage? If he is abusing you, this will continue and even eventually to your child. If this is the case you need to leave while you can. If you are telling the truth, you can stand up for him in court but if not, believe me, lawyers have a way of making the truth come out.
Call his attorney and tell the truth.
well is the state charging him as a fellon or are u?





you could press charges on your mother for perjury....muhhahahahah





also maybe he shouldn't have slapped you in the first place maybe you should have thought what u did. maybe u caused this mess. but the past is the past and the future is now. Dont press charges if you love your family. your mother is mean though all mother in laws do that to men...they dont like there baby girl getting boned by a man they want them to stay as there baby
In these type of cases, the state has an obligation to press charges. Many abused women, after a time, decide against pressing charges... Result, he does it again and again, until in a select few cases, the woman ends up dead.





In my opinion, everyone deserves one chance. But he is not a cave dweller, this is the year 2008. Follow the procedures. Follow up on legal obligations. Above all else, tell the truth. It is what this country and our system is based upon. Otherwise, without honor and integrity I would say there are other issues involved as well. In the end, it will come to bite you.
If you are being 100% honest, then tell his lawyer exactly what happened, leave no detail out. Make sure the lawyer is not one of these cookie cutter lawyers(like the ones of a huge firm with many full page ads in the phone books). Those type of lawyers are no good and only out to make big bucks. The charges have already been filed and no matter what, you have no choice in the matter. You can not tell them you don't want charges filed, too late for that. You, yourself do not need a lawyer, only he does. If the lawyer does his job, he may get off as a misdimeanor, maybe not. It is really up to the District Attorney. You don't have much say as they will not listen to you. If he gets a felony, he will have to take anger managment classes(In California it is a 52 week manatory class), plus he will be put on probation and have to pay court fees and other fines. It will be costly, but you and he can get through it. Just remember the honesty part.
you can contact the DA's office as the state is probably


the one who will file %26amp;press charges are you sure that


this is truth that he did not push you down the stairs


why would your mother say so, when you called her did


you tell her that ? You have to clear that up if it is a lie


and after he spends time in jail he is going to be mad


and guess who he will take it out on. You should not


have gotten physical with him and you need to tell


police you were pushing each other. 5 daysin jail


is a long time I cannot imagine going to jail if I was


falsely accused. And would I want to go back to the


person that put me there, NO.


Is this just for financial reasons you want to keep him


as he provides $$$. Call a Domestic Violence women's


shelter for advice and or help.