Need somewhat legal advice on a relationship of 4 yrs, not married, have 2 kids..?

I've been with this guy 4 years, we have an 18 month old boy and a 3 month old boy.





We've got lots of problems in our relationship.. some of his family knows how he is to an extent.. He has attitudes..





Well he is mean to me and the kids-mostly to them.. calls them bad names (curse words) talks rude to them.. basically verbal abuse.





He tried to rape me I had to fight him off, our 18 month old was standin in the room too, he started crying. He didn't understand I don't think but still...





He has bipolar and other issues and is getting medicine for it in December, he may get better afterwards but I'm pretty sure there is no feeling left strong enough for me to stay with him. I care about him but I'm not in love no more and am pretty sure I can't fall back in love with him after his actions.





I just wanna know, because ive been told i would look bad if i left, would i really look bad? I guess in a legal way?





I don't think he would try and take anything to court.. unless his momma tried something which I would let her see the kids definitely so there would be no reason for her to want him to have full custody of them or nothing and he wouldnt want it either, he could not handle it. He has never had them alone. Will not watch them alone.


While I was in the hospital with my newborn he wouldnt watch our older boy.. well he did offer but I know he couldnt cause his attitude is too bad, our older boy is not a bad child either he is pretty good to be going thru some ';terrible twos'; just a normal child going thru the normal stages, not listening and stuff. We had to have a babysitter for him though at that time because his father couldnt handle watching him so I dont THINK there'd be any kind of legal mess involved if i left. BUT expect the unexpected ya know? plan for the worst.. just in case.





He is very controlling with me too he wont let me go out with friends, we share one car that is basically his so he kinda can stop me in a way, that and he wont watch the kids.. he wont even let me drive the car.. he dont want me going no where.. he dont even want me to work. He has cheated on me 5 times.. I have plenty of reason to not stay in a relationship with him.. I just wanna know if anyone thinks I'd be the bad one for leaving or just what u think period? If you have any kind of legal advice it would be good too.





I dont have a plan to leave him. I just think its gonna come down to it before long and i wanna be prepared and know whatever just in case.Need somewhat legal advice on a relationship of 4 yrs, not married, have 2 kids..?
I'm sorry, but I don't understand. He's controlling, tried to rape you, is mentally ill AND YOU STAYED WITH HIM AND HAD TWO CHILDREN BY HIM!!!!!





WHY!!!!!!????!!!!!!Need somewhat legal advice on a relationship of 4 yrs, not married, have 2 kids..?
Are you kidding? Seriously? You HAVE to leave him, this is an insanely abusive relationship. Contact the local women's shelter and they can help you plan your escape. And no, you will have no legal ramifications if you leave.